Our Laynee Girl.

My sweet girl is 2 days away from turning

8 months old!

She is doing new things by the minute it seems!

Love watching her grow.

Doesn't she look very 

pre-toddlerish in this picture?

I think so.

She is wearing nearly all 12 month clothes!

I can't remember for certain what the sisters were 

wearing at this age - 

but I feel like her baby-ness

has just been so short lived!

She is in between 3 and 2 naps per day.

Somedays she needs the 3rd. 

Other days - no so much.

Over the last several weeks she has started doing lots of new things!

She pulls herself from a laying to a sitting position.

She says dada and mama!

She is slowly learning to put food in her own mouth.

She plays by herself and with her sister very well!

 

My favorite thing, though, is this!

 

I was sitting right in front of her 

(she helped me sort the mail)

and she reached for me.

Outside of smiling - this is my favorite.

I love when they see you - and instantly want you to pick them up.

I just give in. Every time.

She is not a snuggler type in any way,

so if I can steal a little loving just by picking her up

you can bet I will!

I can't believe how big she is getting!

She has been a joy since day 1!

As of late, As of random.

We have been up to so much

and so little around these parts.

We love trying out new hairstyles. Anslee wanted a braid and a bun.

I put the two together and this is what we had.

If Anslee has it, Kensington is begging for it -

so braided buns all around!

People give me funny looks when I tote around this crazy crew

at Wal Mart. I get lots of sympathetic smiles.

I always hear "you have your hands full" from total strangers.

Its a great challenge. Thankful (again) for the Baby K'tan.

Loved this item dearly when we added Kensington - 

loving it just the same with Laynee.

 My 3 are all members of the HSU Cowpoke Posse.

Are yours? Sign em' up yall.

Ya'll know I'm a reality TV junkie

Remember Sean and Catherine on The Bachelor?

Now we are on to Sean and Peta on 

Dancing With the Stars. Team Murgalo has a signature move-

Anslee and Kensington wanted to participate.

Cute can be sad, too, guys. Check it.

Swingin' sisters. Love em.

Guess what?

A certain Kensington Moses 

tackled the whole potty training business.

She is doing great in all her big girlness.

My parents came to town the other day.

Its too bad no one was interested in seeing 

Tama. Poor thing.

This mama got herself a treadmill!

You can find me huffin' and puffin' at 6 am 

in my garage pretending to kill it everyday.

These girls are campaigning hard for their Papa!

Tyler's dad Jay is running for his 3rd consecutive term as 

Chief of Police for

the City of Coleman.

If you are a Colemanite - early voting starts April 29th!

 Remember when I was good mom, and homemade 

Anslee and Kensingtons baby food?

I guess I am benched from team supermom - 

poor Laynee has never had a single bite of homemade food.

Plum Organics it is. 

Seriously - though- I would never homemake 

these crazy concoctions! 

apple raisin quinoa.

purple carrot, pear, blueberry?

I think she is getting healthy foods. 

I'll leave it at that people.

 Love this Silly Billyz bib.

Without being too tight around the neck,

it gets close enough to ensure no food spillage

onto the clothes. I need more of them!

 Its so secret that having babies does crazy things to the bod.
When I have a baby - and she is 4 months old -
I shed like a long haired dog. Its awful. Ask Tyler - he never
complains about that. (ahem, I lie.)
But at 7 months post partum this is what I deal with.
New growth.
drive.me.crazy.
I always look disheveled.
Please don't point out the out of control fly aways.
I am well aware.

Stay tuned next week for my sweet girls Easter Pictures post.

I already have them back - but my mom will shake her head at me if I post 

them prior to Easter. 

I oblige.

Happy Holy Week ya'll!

Why We Chose Babywise.

 This week is a favorite of mine in the blog world! Its babywise friendly blog week. Some of my favorite babywise mom blogs to read are posting each day. I am not one of these of bloggers by any stretch - but since it is their week to feature one another and celebrate babywise,  I thought I would share our experience with it for fun. I so appreciate those women and greatly benefit from their blogs!


Anslee was 6 weeks old, I started getting asked a LOT if she slept through the night yet. In my head, I kept thinking, uhmmm she is 6 weeks old and was 4 lbs at birth - of course she isn't sleeping through the night. When our pediatrician asked me, though, I started thinking - maybe she could if I did something different. I told him no, she was not sleeping through the night. I then made him laugh when I told him I was trying to keep her awake all day long so she would sleep at night. (I know - I was a new mama, I had a LOT to learn) He told me that was actually the worst thing to do and to let her have regular naps during the day. He left it at that and we were on our way. I left that appointment and decided I would go to Barnes and Noble and get that book lots of moms were telling me about. BabyWise.

I read it in a couple of hours and was shocked at how much sense it made. I was then shocked at how what we were doing made no sense whatsoever. It gave me a starting guide. Tyler and I were exhausted from long nights and we were just glad to have something new to try. Afterall, we had nothing to lose from trying it out. Fast forward to 3 days later, Anslee slept through the night (8 hours) for the first time.

BabyWise is a book written by two doctors who have taken a lot of criticism for the philosophies they encourage. It basically is a book to help moms make sense of their days activities with a baby. It encourages an Eat/Wake-play/Sleep cycle routine that repeats itself all day long. It helps a new mom figure out how to meet all of her babies needs all day, everyday. When you line out the daytime activities, suddenly nighttime becomes the time where extended sleep takes place. It works out well, because adults tend to need sleep at night, too. Following this cycle throughout the day allows for if hiccups occur (teething, wonder weeks, growth spurts) you can easily troubleshoot in knowing all of babies needs have been efficiently met. It becomes controversial while it asks mothers to consider a little bit of "crying it out" as they become a tad bit older, after all needs are met, to teach the very important skill of self soothing.

This books series (there are books for every stage including parenting teenagers) over all theme is to "begin as you mean to go" Have a goal in mind and take the small steps necessary to get there. I think this makes so much sense, not just in parenting - but in life in general. I love knowing that the little things (kissing my baby and saying  "night night" before each nap and bedtime) become so routine that when those things happen the child/infant is clearly understanding that its time for sleep. Or that letting your 7 month old have 10 mintues a day alone in a pack and play to learn to play independently means that they will likely be more equipped to make sound decisions on their own later on is so encouraging to me. Its nice to know that the little daily decisions I make for my girls when they are unable to make decisions for themselves are making a direct impact on how they will grow and learn years from now.

BabyWise after they are no longer a baby
I am able to see this already, as Anslee is no longer an infant or a toddler. She is 4 years and 3 months old and she 1. knows exactly what her day will look like and is abundantly secure in that. 2. Never fights going to sleep. Even when she does not actually nap, she stays quietly in bed for 2+ hours until she is given permission to get up. 3. She can easily adjust to routines introduced at pre school, Sunday School, and any group gatherings. She understands structure - and being that she will always have to be structured in her school years, I think its very beneficial.

BabyWise and adding a sibling 
Babywise principles really worked in our favor when we added Kensington to our family. Our family added a new person. That is a HUGE change in the family dynamic, but at age 2, Anslee was very established in her routine - and though we were bringing home a brand new life - her world stayed the same. All of her activities never changed. In fact, it was perfect to be able to have her play independently - happily - while I nursed Kensington. The same goes for Kensington, who was just over 18 months old when Laynee arrived. We never had to "help" our kids adjust to a new baby. There was no acting out in regards to the new baby. There were no additional behavior issues brought on by the new baby. I was always still there, meeting their needs, and they knew it - so there was just no issues when bringing home a new baby. Also, this applies to other life changes, like moving for example. We moved when Anslee was 9 months old, and she was not at all phased. Her world remained exactly the same. I was so thankful.  

BabyWise and Colic
If you ever visited my blog (thanks mom!) during the early parts of 2011 - you know we were struggling through a severe case of colic with our most sweet Kensington. Oh bless her heart - she had such a rough start. After seeing our success with BabyWise with Anslee, there was no question as to whether or not we would implement the same system with Kensington. It was tough - because colic babies are just a whole different story. Soothing is exceedingly difficult for the colic striken baby - thus making naptime quite the fight. We did have to do some extra loving on Kensington to help her, and I will never regret that. She needed it, and I was not going to deny her what she needed. Implementing the babywise philosophies were much more difficult in the beginning with Kensington, but we stuck to our guns and said a lot of prayers and by 16 weeks Kensington was happy, established into a routine and happily sleeping through the night. It took longer, but by staying consistent with her, we were able to make a colic baby a babywise success story.

BabyWise Friends 
Did you know I am so blessed by a community of babywise mothers who understand my thought process and relate to me in a way that is so close to my heart? I appreciate these women more than they will ever know. Valerie Plowman, who authors the great babywise blog, began a google group for babywise moms to post questions, to give and get advice, and ultimately to make friends. I recently have begun helping moderate this board and have really been able to make some precious internet mom friends from all over the WORLD. Its been a great outlet for me, and I can help moms troubleshoot their sleep questions and I also know I can post a question and these mamas care enough to do the same for me. Ive also connected with many of them on facebook. It would be just a dream to all be in one room together!

BabyWise is a sacrifice
I am not going to lie. BabyWise is a sacrifice. You have to be committed to see the results you want all the way through. You have to put in a lot of hard work and have to give up doing a lot of things during the day that you normally would want to go and do. If it is naptime, its naptime. Its nice to know, my kids won't have naptime forever. It will end. Its a sweet season in life that will pass. It will probably pass a little too quickly, but its an important season where you can rest assured that you are giving up doing what you want to meet one of your babies most important needs: sleep. I saw a quote that fit my parenting philosophy so well.

"Children should not have to sacrifice their needs so that parents can get what they want. Instead parents should sacrifice what they want so children can get what they need."

Its a sacrifice that I know will heed positive results for the whole family.


BabyWise means Mom and Dad rest too
It takes a lot of energy to raise babies and toddlers and preschoolers. I think God was intentional in making it necessary for so much sleep needed for growth in babies because they take so much energy to care for when they are awake - their caretakers need to be rested in order provide for them during their wakeful hours. When they rest, you get to rest. Its a perk - not why we do this, but in my opinion it offsets some of the sacrifices we make to to make this work. I have 3 kids - ages 4, 2, and 7 months and I sleep 8 hours a night (well, I try - but I always could if I had better sleep habits myself!) In fact, I still get to workout each morning before they wake up. I also get to get things done around the house during naptime, because I am usually fully rested from a decents night sleep that I can.


BabyWise is not a perfect system. Thats a good thing, too, because its put into practice by very imperfect parents. Its just a guideline, a tool, a help to parents looking to make sense of everyday with kids. There is a babywise learning curve. I know more now, and understand more deeply now about the system than I did when I began using it. Practicing it makes you really understand it, and practicing it on different children brings new light to the philosophy each time.

I have read several other books, talked and worked with "infant sleep experts" and have taken bits and pieces from all of it to fit our family lifestyle. This is what works for us and we will continue down this path as our children grow.

I understand that its not for everyone. I am certainly more than ok with that. I am not trying to persuade our parenting ideals on anyone else, but just wanted to share a bit of why we do what we do. I love learning other schools of thought on parenting young children and will always be respectful of those who do things differently than we do. Its wonderful, the freedom we each have to do things we best see fit for our families.

PT Day.

At the beginning of the year - 

I blogged about things I wanted to see happen in 2013

for each member of my family.

We are on target to getting some of them done.

The biggie on Kensingtons list is 

potty training. 

So I looked at our calendar and Tyler and I decided

March 20th is going to be 

PT Day.

Well-PT Day 1 at least.

We use the Lora Jensen 3 Day Potty Training method.

We had unbelievable success with Anslee using this philosophy -

I am not at all expecting the same results with Kensington.

Kensington is a different kiddo.

Also - most things that require "training"

do not come quite as easily to our sweet Kens.

The general idea behind the 3 Day is this:

Do NOTHING but train your child for 3 days.

Literally. Nothing.

No cooking. No caring for other kids. No TV.

No Blogging. No *gasp* FB.

No playdates. No cleaning (except for the accidents, of course)

NOTHING.

You basically attach your potty trainee to yourself like 

an extra appendage. You watch their every.single.solitary. move.

When they start to "go" you physically pick them up and move them 

to the toliet. Thus - every single time they go they succeed because they 

will at least "finish" in the toliet.

Something happens in the brain, I swear, when this is repeated.

They immediately associate the urge to need to go (beforehand)

with it being released in the toliet. 

So - when they used to not think about going to the bathroom -

they now can "sense".

Genius.

What I love: If you truly are not taking your eyes off your child -

you will quickly pick up on their "non verbal" cues that they are about to go.

Once you as the parent figure that out - 

you can get them to the potty before they start going and

and they can get all of it in the potty.

Genius.

In this method: you never ask this question:

"Do you need to go potty?"

You let them tell you.

They get to be in charge of their bodily functions.

Oh wait - they already are.

You find yourself repeating.

"tell mommy when you need to go potty"

and 

"are you clean and dry?"

 Genius.

This method implies that kiddos around 22 months of age 

are "ready"

I do not necessarily agree with that. 

Some kiddos could be successful a little beforehand

and on the same note,

some may not be ready until a little after.

No matter what - parent and child both need to be ready. 

It takes a lot of prep for a parent. Physically and emotionally.

Today is March 1 and I am not prepared to potty train Kensington - 

but I am doing what I need to do to be ready by March 20th. 

We chose this day, because its the beginning of Tyler's long weekend.

With his help - I hope we can be twice as successful. 

We can both be here to tag team and give breaks to each other as needed.

He was a HUGE help with Anslee. HUGE.

So - we will try then, but if it does not work, and she is in fact

not ready-

We will stop and take a 30 day break and re-try. 

I hope this doesnt happen, but if it does, I will be just fine with it.

I think Kensington is showing the signs I like to see 

in order to detect her readiness.

She can sometimes tell me before she goes that she is going.

She has a full understanding of what the potty is for.

She is interested in the process.

She can communicate with us well enough.

I am trying to figure out her bladder/bowel control readiness though.

She typically does not wake up in the morning or from her nap dry.

Even when I monitor her liquid intake.

So wish us luck friends, 

I hope that 1 month from today I will have

2/3rds out of diapers!